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midero
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| Joined: | Wednesday Jun 30th, 2004 |
| Location: | San Juan, Puerto Rico |
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Posted: Thursday Jul 15th, 2004 06:00 PM |
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| I totally agree with the others. You are young and deserving of happiness, leave now and start a new life before it is too late. If you stick around any longer you are going to end up getting pregnant and suffering a whole lot more. I think that you should take things one step at a time, but definitely the first thing to do is leave, then decide what you want to do, either go back home or live on your own, either go back to school or not. The first thing is leaving this guy and taking decisions that satisfy you and make you happy. I am sure it is not easy, but once you do it you will not regret it, you are young and someone will come into your life and make you feel the things that you have been longing for.
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ceesee823
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| Joined: | Saturday Jul 10th, 2004 |
| Location: | Orlando, Florida USA |
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Posted: Thursday Jul 15th, 2004 04:21 PM |
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thanks so much for your reply to my post, makes me feel better, still workin on it  thanks again
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Terisita
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| Joined: | Tuesday Jun 8th, 2004 |
| Location: | Houston, Texas USA |
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Posted: Thursday Jul 15th, 2004 02:07 PM |
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I agree with GTblair. Leave and do not look back!!!!
I stayed in an abusive, empty marriage for over 25 years! He was not physically abusive but was emotionally and verbally abusive. If I had focused on controlling and working on my happiness instead of floundering I would have left much sooner. Instead I wasted so many years. Do not do that to yourself!!!!!!
Focus on yourself and your happiness. Can you see a future with this guy and his daughter and the ex-wife? The abuse only gets worse as time goes on. Using mind games is a form of abuse!!!!!!!
You are so young. You have your whole life ahead of you.
Trust me, there is a special person out there for you. I found the man of my dreams after leaving my former husband.
Going back to college after my divorce was the best decision I ever made. I met so many people and had so much fun. Life is to enjoyed!
Don't you want to be #1 in someone's life? Don't you want to be the most loved person in your partner's life? You are not #1 in this guys life and it seems you never will be. You deserve better!!!!
Leave, do it now.
Hoping wishing you make the right decision. Let us know.
Teri
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GTblair
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| Location: | Tsukuba, Japan |
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Posted: Thursday Jul 15th, 2004 06:32 AM |
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| Come on! You are only 20! Leave the dude, go back to school, meet someone you like who is actually nice to you and respects you and start your life again. He wont change. He doesnt respect you or even care for you by the sound of it. Dont let him brain wash you. Dont get in any deeper than you already are or you may regret it. You maybe unhappy initially but when you move back home and maybe meet someone nice then you will wonder why the hell you stuck around with him in the first place! Im sure your family will be happy to see you come home and go back to school. Youve got so much to lose in your own life if you dont move now. You may even realize that if you went home for a break for a couple of weeks. Do it for me.
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ceesee823
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| Location: | Orlando, Florida USA |
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Posted: Saturday Jul 10th, 2004 03:00 PM |
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| I am 20 years old and have lived with my boyfriend for 2 years, I moved away from home to live with him, almost 20 hours away. There is a lot of stress on the relationship, it has been a long struggle for me and I feel like I'm at my breaking point, that I dont know wether to salvage whats left and keep on trying or to cut my losses with 2 years and move back home. He is 25 and has a young daughter that he is very involved with which puts me in the middle of a "step-mom" role where I have to "deal" with her and the mother even on occasion, he has lost my trust by lies, big and/or small early in the relationship, he is a master of mind games to the point where I can't tell if I care for him or I'm just here out of habit. I left my first year of college to come here to be with him and since then havent went back , I can't help but feel like this is how it's always gonna be, that if I don't leave now these are the only things I have left to look forward and I'm still so young! I just feel like I can't leave and I feel like it's completely mental on my part that I'm scared that I will be unhappy and not able to mend it if I break it (the relationship) just feelings of un-sure but deep down I know it's whats best for me but literally I feel like I can't? I'm confused I don't know how I can scrape up the courage to do whats best for me, I don't know if it's a self confidence problem or what, or how I can make myself stronger... I just have a lot on my plate and any insight would be appreciated, thank you.
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